BDSM

BDSM-D/s

D/ s Dominance/submissive..I am definitely the dominant in the bedroom. And as we stated, because we are not 24/7, Damian remains head of household. Generally we talk everything through and make decisions together but I ultimately surrender the final say to him as proverbs 31 is written. I wasn’t always this way. I use to be very stubborn and controlling, and honestly, my decisions a lot of times led to trouble! After accepting Christ and learning to let Damian lead, things began to go much smoother! Now I’m like…yeah, you decide.

But being the sexual dominant is now my lead role and i try to plan play every evening. If my health does not allow it, we will usually cuddle up together and talk all night or watch a movie. Some nights he will just be chilling in bed, tired and ready to sleep. Like that’s going to happen! Tired is not a big enough reason to not fool around. But after, it’s guaranteed he will sleep amazingly! It’s actually a lot of work to prepare for an evening of play. Set up and clean up usually take as long, if not longer then the actual act or scene. Fun fact…clean your effing toys…every.time. I will do a post on that later. And as the Dominant, I delegate that duty right to Damian. Just another perk.

As my submissive, Damian is open to most things, and very obedient! And why wouldn’t he be with how much pleasure is packed into one evening! It’s also very erotic to see him in this vulnerable state of total submission! As we stated before his only real no no is biting, and of course no third persons. We have zero interest in bringing in another person. We did research those areas just to better understand our community and hey if that’s great for you then we completely respect that! Love is love is love is love. Zero judgement!

Another thing we completely agree on is that Pegging is our ultimate favorite! We highly recommend that if it is something that you have thought about, definitely communicate this to your partner. What can happen? They say no? But it can plant a seed of curiosity and maybe they will come around later. Or they say yes! After the first night of pegging I noticed Damian seemed to be more joy filled. He had more energy, smiled and played more. His patience levels increased, and he is less grumpy. He has even allowed our teen daughter to go on a date….which I’ll share that story later. Daddy doesn’t like his baby girls to date. All in all he’s just an even more joy filled person and I totally equate it to regular pegging.

Another favorite as my submissive is regular toenail polishing. Damian has painted my toes in the past, when I was pregnant, mostly, and couldn’t reach, and it was just a basic color. Now it’s usually every other week and he goes all out with designs, gems and decals. Back rubs are also a nightly occurrence, but I reiterate with a foot rub.

There’s a lot that can go into the D/s realm regardless who is who. You just need to decide what works for you. We are still figuring that out and making adjustments accordingly. But all around it continues to have only positive effects in our relationship and just increases our passion and lust for each other more and more

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