BDSM

BDSM B-bondage

Now that we are 2 months in we can share our experiences up to this point. First off, we are not 24/7 BDSMers. Though we love exploring all the facets and experiencing the heightened pleasure it brings, we have too many kids still living in the home, Damians full time job, my health issues and a plethora of other obstacles that keep us from the full time lifestyle. We also don’t adhere to the full spectrum. We tried to assign rules and punishments but we couldn’t take that area seriously. But we did have fun exploring it! And have not locked the door on it. We also consider ourselves to be in the switch category. Though I am more dominant in the bedroom most often, I do also submit at times.

We have noticed a huge increase in libido, which is so awesome as I am menopausal and that had pretty much diminished for me. So to be so sexually heightened all the time is deff a positive! For Damian, he is able to not only achieve a longer lasting erection, that honestly has grown in size, but can sometimes go 3-4 times a night, which compliments my new elevated sex drive just perfectly.

To keep the posts length down, we are going to break our BDSM experience into categories. And focus on 1 or 2 per post. Let’s just go in order.

B-Bondage… we LOVE bondage. Be it shibari, gags, blindfolds, bondage bars…we haven’t done handcuffs but hand restraining tends to cause anxiety for us both, so that, we are still working on. Our bondage bar can restrain our hands well enough, with a quick velcro release. As for the body ties, they have significantly helped in decreasing my anxiety so if this is something you struggle with, I suggest you give it a try.

I love being tied up as you see by most of our photos and am submissive to Damian in this area. A rope bunny is a term used to express my love of being tied in ropes, also rope bottom. Damians artistic talent of tying me up is referred to as a rope rigger or top. We have a dedicated IG page to all of our different ties, wether I self tie, he ties me or I tie him…which is not too often. It is @knoty_passion. The link is also here on our site “” Damian doesn’t mind the bondage bars, or occasional restraint, but he is not to big on the full body shibari type ties like I am. And that’s ok because I clearly don’t have what it takes to rig. I prefer to be bound where he prefers to bind. And that works perfectly for us.

With bondage comes a deep need of trust and communication. Also consent, submission and patience. Some sessions can take up to 90 minutes or longer. It can be quit tiresome and sometimes painful. Damian is sure to check in and make sure ropes aren’t too tight and there’s no dangerous pain or numbness happening. You need to know the differences between danger pain and pleasurable pain so be sure to research before trying this yourself as there are risks and dangers involved. Always keep scissors in view and never, ever leave your bottom unattended no matter the circumstance.

3 thoughts on “BDSM

  1. Got to love some bondage! Your ropework is beautiful though I actually found rope made me MORE anxious, so that’s interesting. When you say bondage bars, do you mean like a spreader bar? I wasn’t sure if it’s a different term that I’ve not seen used before. If so, I love ours! Xx

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    1. Thank you so much! He’s a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to ropes. And I struggled a lot in the beginning with being tied up. But after a few sessions I realized it wasn’t causing me any harm and have actually been able to now use it as a tool to relax during anxious moments. I will reach for ropes now before meds when the opportunity permits. And yes bondage/spreader bars are a lot of fun😘

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